Got a burning question about CRAVE? Not sure you know what to expect yet? Read on and you might find your answer here.
Do you take women who aren’t into other men?
Yes. The female search for sexual experiences with other women is one of the main reasons couples begin swinging. Obviously, if every woman took this line then a party would become unbalanced. However, they do not and for every woman who is only interested in other women there is usually another who is seriously into men!
The only thing that women who want fun together cannot expect to find at a CRAVE party is a door to retreat behind, and this goes for everyone else too. What we can guarantee is that no-one else will interfere.
How do I persuade my partner to come?
At CRAVE we are interested in couples who are both sexual adventurers. We are not looking for couples where one partner has been manipulated into giving it a go (and believe it or not, this is as often the guy as it is the girl).
How do we know if people want to have fun with us?
If you are chatting for 10 mins or more, it’s probable that they wouldn’t mind taking a tumble with you. You can always take the initiative by suggesting you all go to see what’s happening in the playrooms. “Shall we take a look round?”, “We’re going through, would you like to come?” are ways you can make the suggestion without being crude.
Of course you must accept the slightest hesitation on their part with merely an “OK catch you later!”. It doesn’t mean they think you are ugly. It may mean they just haven’t worked up the courage yet, need to have a privately word first or they might even have a prior arrangement with another couple.
The other way to do it is physical. The way to do it is to make light, playful touching, for example by stroking the other person’s arm. The least pushy way to do it is girl to girl but girl to boy is also fine. In fact if a guy has been flirting with a woman from another couple and getting on well, it would be OK too. A light touch is the worst that can happen; nobody is going to get hysterical about a touch.
Can we play in private?
No. Venues are not big enough to provide private rooms for each couple. It also goes against the whole point of coming to our parties.
You can make love by yourselves, without interference. This is quite common, especially among first-timers. It might have to be on the same bed as other people but the action at parties goes in waves and it is perfectly possible to have a bed or even a room to yourselves for a while.
We don’t allow closed doors at our parties because we want to stop couples feeling excluded. We also want first-timers in particular to be able to see what goes on and deciding if they want to take the plunge. We foster an open, warm inclusive vibe not a competitive, cliquey one. Any foursome or group who want privacy can leave and go somewhere else together or arrange to meet up by themselves another time.
The only doors that close at CRAVE parties are the bathrooms. But it is against the rules to shag in the loos because it often forces others to queue to use them – and after all you can shag anywhere else in the venue.
Do you accept single men?
No. We don’t let single men in (nor do we find them swinging girlfriends) and we do not reply to messages from them. Life is too short.
Do you accept single women?
Yes, we do accept applications from single women although entry is not guaranteed. Our selection panel does not decide until the closing date whether to admit single girls to that event and they must pass through the same selection procedure as everyone else. If you are an an attractive single woman in our age range, we’d love you to apply. We’re also happy to allow single girls to come earlier to help them feel more at ease.
Do you accept threesomes?
Yes, we accept FMF threesomes but not MFM. Both women’s names and photos should be included with a normal application.
Do you take female couples?
We take bisexual female couples.
We also take two single female friends who want to come along together to give each other immoral support. They apply as two single women but we link their applications and accept or turn them down together, to avoid the awkwardness for them if one passes our selection panel and the other does not.
How often do you hold your parties?
Our events are irregular because the very high standard of venue we need is difficult to acquire. We try to organise something every month.
Is it worth reapplying if we are refused the first time?
It is quite normal for a couple to be turned down at first but be accepted a second time.
The selection panel takes their responsibilities very seriously, passionate arguments about the merits of various couples are frequent and meetings are sometimes reconvened the following day when agreement was not possible the night before. This is because we always have too many good couples applying and not enough space to accept everyone who deserves it. So you might easily be lucky a second time if you were not at first – but give it your best shot and have some better photos taken.